Wednesday, September 12, 2012

The war on our men

I've been pondering this topic for some time and after reading a fellow blogger bring up the "stupidity of men portrayed on TV" I've decided to pen my thoughts on the topic.

It's been a number of years already that the TV and movie industry shifted their focus on men as heroes to men as the ultimate losers and families being run by either the capable-of-handling-anything-and-everthing-mom or the we-are-the-heroes-of-today-kids.

Personally I find it most annoying. And by now it's pretty old. Seriously Hollywood, can't you get a new angle??

But I think there's something deeper going on here...

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
Jesus said,"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly."
John 10:10

As people are trying to find more and more ways to become spiritual on their own terms, the enemy becomes more creative in ways to destroy us without us even noticing.

The family is such a special unit created by God and it's no secret that Satan will do anything to tear families apart.

Several years ago the attack started on the mothers. Opening their eyes to equal rights and driving them to strive to succeed in a "man's world". That movement has been pretty successful.

So many mothers are working full time out of their home and society has succeeded in balancing the work force to the point that women believe they CANNOT stop working because they will not survive without that income. In many companies there are more posts available to women than to men.

So now that that lie has been believed and lived up to, the enemy shifted the focus to the men.

As if it's not enough for men to struggle to keep their jobs before women they are publicly portrayed as weak, incompetent, without a backbone, not able to keep things afloat without a woman or as well as the women.

That's the message our kids are subtly and NOT so subtly anymore, are given at every opportunity on TV and in the movies.

How long do you think it's going to take for them to actually believe that?

What happens in the sub-conscious when in real life Dad makes the slightest mistake, or Mom & Dad have an disagreement? What happens when Dad gets laid off at work for reasons beyond his control?

All those things that our kids see on TV speaks to them - even when they are not aware of it per se.

Have you met young adults today who are trying to get to the top of the work ladder by the shortest route possible. Make money and get rich by 20-something.

What happened to starting from the bottom and working your way up. Being patient and hard-working even if you only reap the benefits years from now?

Let's not kid ourselves... The enemy is trying to destroy our precious families in any way he can.

Take Mom away from her kids and/or demoralize Dad (and future dads) so that eventually they will even believe it themselves that they are NOT capable, so what's the point of even trying.

What can Christian mothers do to make a difference for our husbands and our sons...

- Do NOT part-take or even allow conversations where women are complaining about their husbands simply to off-load their frustrations

- Do NOT demoralize or run your husband down in front of your children or anywhere else, period!

- Do NOT count yourself his superior (The Bible is very clear that he is the head of the household)

- Be transparent (Our kids know we don't always agree but they sure as anything know that we solve it, and we respect each other)

- Don't be afraid to be wrong or to say you're sorry

Most of all, be the example of how to love and respect your husband - live & speak it out loud!

The enemy wants your family. Don't let him! This is a spiritual war and it's already been won.

Let's claim our husbands and fathers as the rightful strong head of our households!

Ps. This post reflects and refers to Christian mothers and fathers who (together) seek to live according to His will. I understand there are many circumstances and people who will make living this out very hard.


  1. I love the way you've written this. I read a similar teaching in one of James Dobson's books, and I agree totally. There is so much feminism and undermining of the man's role of leadership in families. It only messes up the family unit as God designed it for the man to lead. Children and wives need it.

  2. Excellent! Thanks for sharing!

  3. Excellent! Thanks for sharing!